“Friends with benefits” seems to be a popular theme in Hollywood this year. Two films are due to be released in the next month or so, both exploring the idea of no-strings attached sex with a friend. Rather unimaginatively, one, starring Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake, is called Friends With Benefits, while the other, starring Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher, is called No Strings Attached. See what they did there?
So, do these kinds of set-ups ever work? In my experience, no. It’s a situation that’s inevitably fraught with all kinds of complications and one, if not both parties, almost always ends up desperately hurt. The trouble is that the guy is usually genuinely delighted with the arrangement while the girl pretends she’s all fine and dandy and laidback about it but secretly hopes he’ll fall madly in love with her. Which never happens. Except maybe in a Hollywood film.
Friends with no strings attached.....hmmm! Erm...no! Does not work...!
ReplyDeleteNot for most Women anyway because they cannot help but fall a little bit or maybe a lot in love with the 'friend'.
Men can do that thing, they put people in boxes, so to speak, and can live their lives not giving their 'special friend' a thought until they actually knock on their door.
I made this mistake and yes I got hurt but in a sick kind of revenge kind of way he still wants me to be his friend despite the fact he is married with the child he craved so I can get a little bit of satisfaction out of my refusal to see him or acknowledge him in anyway.
The bitterness still festers so all I can say to you girls who think you can be the one to tame him and change his mind and make him fall in love with you....you can't!